Why You’re Still Single

Do you have trouble dating? Does the thought of approaching an attractive girl make you sweat? Do you stress out after every date thinking about all the ways you screwed up?

Relax, you’re not alone. A lot of guys feel the way you do. And I’ll let you in on a secret…Dating isn’t easy for women either. But let’s talk about solutions. 

In this video, we’re going to look at some of the reasons you might still be single and come up with solutions to get you back in the game.

By the end of the video, you’ll be able to approach beautiful women with confidence because you’ll have a game plan.

And don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to the channel. If you have any questions, leave them in the comments. I will get back to you as soon as I can. 

Reason 1: You’re Not Sure How to Act

Confidence drives women crazy. It’s a total game-changer. You need confidence at all stages of the process: approaching her, asking her out, calling her again after the first date, even figuring out the right places to go and the right things to say takes confidence.

I know, if you’ve had a few catastrophes and rejections, it isn’t easy to be confident. But you can’t fake it. The best way to be confident is to be authentic. 

Remember that episode of Seinfeld where George approaches a hot blonde and says, “Hello my name is George. I’m unemployed and live with my parents.” 

And she’s incredibly impressed and attracted to George in that moment. Why? Because he had the confidence to be honest about himself and his situation even though it might make him look bad.

This is the kind of confidence and authenticity we’re talking about. It’s okay to tell a woman you feel nervous. You can even laugh at your past dating experiences. This shows her that you’re not worried about how you look which can be incredibly disarming.

Your date probably also had some bad dating experiences so they will relate and naturally let their guard down. 

It’s amazing how far a sense of humor and relatability will get you. If you play your cards right, hot women will want you uncontrollably. 

Reason 2: You’re Not Handling Rejection Well

How do you act when you get rejected? Do you beg her not to leave? Do you get angry? Do you beat yourself up for being a loser?

Well then no wonder you’re not getting anywhere.

When a woman rejects you, take the high road. Smile and tell them you understand. Just move on.

Here’s what these reactions are telling your date. You’re telling them that you’re not bothered by their rejection. You’re showing them you’re in control of your emotions. Best of all, you’re showing confidence. 

Now they’re thinking, “Hmmm, maybe he’s the one that got away,” instead of, “Thank goodness I avoided the catastrophe!” And who knows, maybe at some point she will call and want to give it a try. 

The more you let rejection get the better of you, the more you’re going to be afraid of failure, and the more awkward and nervous you’re going to be the next time you’re in this situation.

It’s better to learn from your mistakes. Think about what went wrong and don’t let it happen again. And if you’re not sure what went wrong, well maybe it really was them, not you. 

Reason 3: You Can’t Drop the Bad Boy Image

Do women still love the bad boys? Well, maybe a little. But if you are going crazy thinking about how you can make your date feel bad so they will want you more, or resisting the urge to call your partner because you don’t want to seem desperate, you’re doing something wrong. 

The bad boy act is getting cliche. There’s only so much a woman will put up with before they move on. And if you’re so obsessed with playing a game, you’re probably not enjoying the relationship- and neither is your partner.

That doesn’t mean you can’t get into some trouble… Be spontaneous. Take your date to a secluded park that’s technically closed for the evening. Or pack a picnic and take them to a nude beach.

Just don’t treat your partner like the enemy or your relationship won’t move forward. Do it enough and your partner will dump you and leave you right back where you started. 

Reason 4: You Obsess Over Your Dating Failures

If you’ve been dating for a while and things aren’t going well, you may need to take a break and rethink things. Find a hobby outside of dating. Stop waiting by the phone to see if someone’s going to call. 

Obsessing about your dating failures will put too much pressure on each date. You will lose confidence and beat yourself when things go wrong. You will reek of desperation.

Remember, dating is just one small part of life. Focus on everything else you have going in life. Hey, this date might go wrong, but you’ve still got your health, your family, friends, hobbies…whatever.

Desperation is not a good look. Your partner will think you are sexier if they call and you don’t pick up because you’re out mountain climbing or enjoying that new spinning class. It’s better than a guy who answers on the first ring because he’s scared they’re going to hang up. 

Reason 5: You Don’t Know How to Treat Your Date

Men are scared of dating because they don’t know how to treat their dates. What do you do? What do you say? Should you kiss on the first date? Should you hold the door for her?

The key is to act naturally. Compliment your date, but don’t overdo it. Only offer genuine compliments that are unique to her. Avoid saying the same old lines she’s heard a million times. 

So instead of saying “you look nice,” tell her that you like the way she lights up when she talks about her family. Or point out a unique piece of jewelry she’s wearing.

The important thing is to keep the conversation going. So definitely discuss your interests, but don’t let them dominate the conversation. If you feel like you’re talking too much, turn the conversation around by asking her about herself.

And women love a sense of humor, so don’t be scared to joke around. But above all else, be authentic. If your date can’t accept you for who you are, it’s better to find out upfront. You can’t fake it forever.

Reason 6: You Don’t Know Where to Look for Women

Thanks to technology, a lot of single people stay at home. Meeting someone means hopping on a dating app. It’s convenient, but a lot of these online apps are full of scams, catfishing, and misinformation. And they just straight up don’t work for a lot of people. Maybe you’re not photogenic or you’re bad at communicating via text…that’s totally okay. It just means that you’ll have to seek love in other places.

So instead of hopping on an app, get out of the house and do something fun around other people. Join a club, go to an event, or meet up with friends of friends. You’ll build more authentic relationships this way and if you keep busy, you’ll stop obsessing over your dating disasters.

Reason 7: You’re Not Connecting Sexually

Taking the relationship to the next level–and by next level I mean sex–isn’t always easy. It can be especially intimidating to a guy who has had dating trouble. But it’s something that you need to figure out if you want to meet her needs.

So how do you escalate? Well it starts with touch. Don’t go for the grab right away, but a touch on the back, the leg, or the shoulder is a great move. It promotes intimacy. 

Be slow here but not tentative. Read her body language. If she doesn’t mind you touching her, you can move on to stroking her hair or her lower back. Caressing a woman will drive her crazy and make her want more. 

On the other hand, if she backs away, freezes or tells you to stop, withdraw and try again later.

If things are going well, you can become more intimate. Ask her if she’d like to go somewhere more private, like a quiet bar, or even your apartment. 

Working up to the kiss can be intimidating. Give her a few kisses on the cheek or the top of her head to measure her reaction. If all goes well, focus on her mouth when you talk to her. Gradually lean into her lips. 

Remember, the key is slow, gradual movements. That way, you can take a cue from her reaction. If she pulls away, you can take a discreet step back and try again later in the night or at another point in your relationship. And if you’re not sure how she’s feeling, ASK HER. It might feel awkward but it’s better to seek clarity than accidentally cross her boundaries. 

Something as simple as “does that feel good?” or “do you want more?” will make things run much more smoothly.

Reason 8: You Don’t Treat Her Like She’s a Pal

Average men swoon all over a hot girl. And hot girls are sick of it. They don’t want to deal with it. It lowers their opinion of the guy. 

Men who have luck with women don’t dote or get intimidated. They treat women like pals. They act relaxed and treat her like a buddy.

It doesn’t matter if you’re an average guy. If you treat a woman like a pal, she will appreciate the refreshing approach. She will think more of you and you may even get elevated to ‘hot guy’ status. 

Just one word of warning, know when to switch out of buddy mode and into partner mode. If you treat her like a pal 90% of the time, when you do finally turn on the charm and get flirty, it’s going to drive her wild. And when you’re ready to touch her, touch her with confidence, like it’s the most natural thing in the world.

Okay, well that’s all I have for you today. Again, be sure to like and comment on the video and subscribe to the channel. And good luck getting your dating game up to 11.